Whatever situation you find yourself in is always an opportunity for healing the belief that we are separate from Love. To do this, we must look at the situation WITH Spirit. In my own experience, I’ve found that this process of healing is accelerated by looking at the underlying beliefs in the mind that are associated with the situation. For instance, if someone angers you at work, you must believe you are a person if you are taking something personally! The belief that you are a person can then be seen clearly as you look on it WITH Spirit. This creates space for the miracle to enter. In this video, I share how to uncover these underlying beliefs in order to look at them WITH Spirit.
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I love the way way to so me to question my beliefs. This is the key to see things differently so we feel better. This is an example of how I kinda do that with my wife but didn’t realize it’s part of ACIM. My wife has Daily Persistent Migrains for 7 straight years everyday since she gave birth to our second son. Anyway, when her head hurts so bad and she is so sensitive to light and sound she needs to lay down in a dark quiet room. She always feels bad when she has to do this cause we miss out on her and she misses out on us. I tell her though that she is laying down because she doesn’t feel well which Daily Migraines is a real disorder, she isn’t laying down because she doesn’t want to spend time with us. I try to get her to change her perspective by seeing her migraines cause her to lay down so she doesn’t deal bad or guilty she is missing out. So I guess I’m asking is they way I trying to change her perspective to feel better almost like how you say to question our beliefs and change our own perspective to feel better?
Hi Mark!
I’m absolutely encouraging us to have a flexible perspective and be willing to see things differently. Yes, it’s a great practice to support our partners, encourage them, and to show them that we desire to help them release guilt and see things differently. Of course, it’s best to ask your wife if what you’re saying is helpful to her (as some people may not be willing to change their perspective). But it sounds like you’re really trying to help her and I’m sure she appreciates that! <3
Corinne, I am struggling with holding on to guilt for betraying myself and getting involved with gossip and hurtful things I said which caused a falling out of a family relationship. Our husbands were best friends talking to each other several times a day, strongly expressing their views on sports and politics which they basically agreed on, but basically being angry with what was happening in the world. We wives are much less opinionated and like to keep the peace. Being in a moment of anxiety, I let my ego get the best of me and said negative comments about a friend of theirs. I apologized through text. She responded by criticizing us of being negative and made a comment that was quite invasive into our family matters. I called her and expressed that my feelings were hurt about that comment. She hung up on me. I called her back leaving a voice mail apologizing in tears asking her to call back so we can resolve the situation. I have not heard from her, nor has my husband heard from his friend, her husband. I am blaming myself and am having trouble releasing the tremendous guilt for getting out of my realm with the mean gossip. I realize where my anxiety was coming from that day, not from them but from old returning issues, but it caused me to react in a way that I don’t like. I am listening to your meditations, reading, journaling, but having a difficult time releasing this and believing it is all an illusion. Do you have any advice?
Thank you, Love.
Hi Lynette,
Thanks so much for sharing… it sounds like it has been a hard situation to deal with. I have an ACIM quote/prayer suggestion that has been truly helpful for me. Here it is:
“Your part is merely to return your thinking to the point at which the error was made, and give it over to the Atonement in peace. Say this to yourself as sincerely as you can, remembering that the Holy Spirit will respond fully to your slightest invitation:
I must have decided wrongly, because I am not at peace.
I made the decision myself, but I can also decide otherwise.
I want to decide otherwise, because I want to be at peace.
I do not feel guilty, because the Holy Spirit will undo all the consequences of my wrong decision if I will let Him.
I choose to let Him, by allowing Him to decide for God for me.
This is from Chapter 5 part VII in the FIP edition. This sentence is EVERYTHING: “I do not feel guilty, because the Holy Spirit will undo all the consequences of my wrong decision if I will let Him.”
There is no sin that has happened; all calls for love can be seen as just that. You need not feel guilty… your part is simply to do exactly what this prayer outlines. I hope this helps you as much as it has helped me! xo
The work you are doing has been such a help to me and I’m sure to many others too. Much love…
Thank you Charlene! xo